Jack:  Do people know acceptance is LOVE?  Because when I accept, my girl-friend gets weird on me and thinks that I don't care about her. She tells me I don't give a \"shit\" about anything. Can we accept and have no question? Yes, I know I do have questions sometimes and I will ask. But when I don't have questions, I just don't.

Umi: There are two questions here.  Acceptance and love and then about asking questions.  When you are in a relationship, and that includes girl-friends, boy-friends, mother, father, daughter, lovers, or anyone who has a connection with you, there will always be an expectation from the other.  The purpose of a relationship is to connect with someone else with those aspects of yourself that you accept.  It is to reinforce those parts of your personality that you enjoy. It is to have confirmed that you are the way you believe you are.  But these concepts are fragile.  They need continual reassuring, because, through unconsciousness, you have not totally accepted yourself, accepted yourself with all your facades.  Therefore the moment one person in the relationship changes, the other becomes insecure.  The moment you do not support each other in the familiar way, the other becomes insecure.  Therefore the statement in your question arises, \"...when I accept, my girl-friend gets weird on me and thinks that I don't care about her. She tells me I don't give a \"shit\" about anything.\"  As you become more aware and move into acceptance, some people around you will feel discomfort and they will blame their discomfort on you.  You say, \"She tells me I don't give a \"shit\" about anything.  \"She then believes that you are being indifferent.  But acceptance is not indifference.  Acceptance is allowing the flow, being in the flow, knowing that the flow is all there is.  And knowing that fighting the flow is the cause of suffering.  This requires being alert to every moment.  Being aware and yet relaxed.  Whereas indifference is putting up a wall, going numb, and moving into the world of novocaine.  Remember your girl-friend was attracted to you because of the way you were and the mind becomes insecure if there is any change.  With this work, there is always change, because the old habits dissolve.  And this too is about acceptance.  And also accepting totally that the other may react, may become uncomfortable and even may want to find another person who will support their beliefs.  But it is only with total acceptance can you open...can the love that you are blossom.  

And then you question about questions.  Total acceptance has no questions.  But do not befool yourself and wear the mask of no questions.  If questions arise, then ask.  Because the Master will slowly dissolve all your questions.  But first you need to be willing to ask.

Love Umi