Here are a few words from Umi in response to Siddha.

Siddha: I was doing machete work, and the owner has a four-year-old daughter and she is as cute as can be and we get along really well and play and laugh and it is wonderful. And he came up to me and said, I want you to stay away from my daughter.

Umi: You said, OK?

Siddha: Yes, I did. And when he finally said that, I got the feeling that he was, jealous of that.

Umi: That is his nature.

Siddha: Yes.

Umi: From the belief that you are separate emerges the desperation to hang on to somebody, whether it is a lover or a child, a parent or a friend. And when that person shows interest in someone else the fear of losing arises and a desperation to hang on becomes strong. The fear of being isolated, of being lost creates the desperation to hang on rather than accept the separateness. This is painful. This is suffering. There is a belief that life is a winlose game. That there is not enough to go around. The belief is if someone gains, someone else must lose. If your lover is interested in someone else the belief is that you must lose. But the truth is life can also be a winwin game. When you are able to allow the other to be with another, and be totally clear and open, you actually gain.  They become fuller and you have the potential of becoming fuller. But most people are not ready for that. Most people still succumb to jealousy. And the suffering goes around and around, hurting and hurting. Some commit violence, some commit suicide, some get sick and die, some just go into a black hole of depression. Very few see it and become free from it, but the potential is there for everyone to see it. Everyone will eventually get the point. The only question is, how many lives does it take? It does not need to take any, you can get it this very moment. It is the same with this father-daughter. He is living in the fear of winlose. There is nothing to explain, there is nothing to justify, there is nothing to say, not even, Well, she came to me. Because it has nothing to do with the facts, the logical justice of the facts, it has nothing to do with that. It simply has to do with his pain.

Love Umi